Wholeheartedly embrace & enjoy the single mum experience – here’s how!
Unbeknownst to the majority of the general public out there, being a single mum can be as joyous, rewarding, and as fun as more traditional family set ups. However, thinking that it’s all kisses and rainbows clearly misses the point that it is parenting, and like all parenting experiences, it does present pressures, challenges, and complications that are all its very own. So here are some things we hope will help you on the single mum rollercoaster ride, so strap in!
Step out of the stigma
It never does go away does it, no matter how progressive we think we are as a society, the stigma of a single mum remains. It can hang over you like an overburdening shadow, causing you to overcompensate or even stifle at times – both of which are dangerous in the long run. Now, it may seem tough, but do try to shake off the stigma over time. Once its influence wanes, it will seem as if a huge weight has been lifted on your shoulders – thus liberated and empowered, you can go ahead and be the best parent you can be.
Deliver couple envy the coup de grace
Seeing seemingly happy families and couples early on in your single parenting journey can lead you to believe that this is the life you want for your children and yourself. However, not unlike the social media facade, which only projects the best parts of people’s lives and nothing else, this is often misleading. It’s time to face facts, will having a father figure help out in your situation? Well, probably. Is that an option right now? No. So, work with what you’ve got, and you can most definitely make it work! Dismiss the fantasy world, and please don’t wallow endlessly in self- pity.
As a single parent, you are frequently the only one who can offer words of praise for a job well done. Plan your week’s tasks in advance and cross them off your list at the end of the week.This will help you attain your objectives, but it will also fill you with pride and delight, as well as a sense of accomplishment and motivation. Now go ahead and try to wipe the gratification off your face!
Take care of number one
For parents, the list of things to do includes everything from getting kids ready for school to going on playdates with them. As a single mother, you tend to take on more than you can handle, leaving little time for yourself. Shredded nerves and an overworked brain are almost always the result of this. So, if that’s where you are in the parenting process, are you really going to bring your A-game? Regardless of how hectic your calendar becomes, you must set aside time for self-care. You and your children will be grateful in the future.
So there you go, we do hope these ideas can help add more smiles, cuddles, and kisses to your life. So keep your chin up, screw your head on the right, and brace yourself for more wonderful single mum euphoric experiences!